Navigating Relationships
In my last post, I introduced legendary relationship therapist Esther Perel, because recently I have been drawn into the romantic relationship space from both sides in my coaching and it has opened up an exciting new avenue that takes one shared reality and looks at it from different viewpoints in the same moment in time. With the proviso that everyone´s viewpoint or perception is equally valid.
And how it takes each person from looking at “Who Am I?” to “Who Are We?”. And which aspect should we look at first? Or is there a first and second order? Because as much as we have created our own stories about ourselves over time, we have our stories about ourselves in our relationships and stories about our partners. Do you ever say – I am the organised one, the emotional one, the decision-maker or the questioner? We create roles for ourselves within our relationships, which then become parts of our personalities, and part of our combined story.
So the question isn´t a choice of one over the other, but rather is, “Who am I when I am part of the We”? And how does that affect who my partner is as part of that We?
I leave that with you to ponder.